If you have recently separated from your partner or are considering a divorce from your spouse then there are likely to be a lot of issues to be resolved and discussed during the mediation process, especially if there are children involved or if there are joint assets such as a family home to consider . Whilst it is important to stress that mediation is not by its nature a counselling service, at Godalming Family Mediation we recognise that it is extremely important to ensure that both parties feel strong enough from an emotional aspect to start to make clear and informed decisions about all of these issues for the future and we will therefore always ensure that the emotional side of a separation is explored if all parties feel that this would be helpful.
If a longer period of time has elapsed since the separation, it is possible that time has allowed the emotional aspects of the separation to heal but it is also often the case that unresolved issues have actually become greater problems over time.
We therefore always ensure that we try to understand fully your individual situation in order that we can approach the mediation process in a way that is tailored to your needs. In some situations, this might mean that both parties prefer not to discuss the history of the relationship and instead want to focus purely on the finances in a manner more akin to a business transaction, whereas it might be the case that both parties feel that they need to explore certain aspects of the history of the relationship in order to decide whether there is a future to the relationship and to resolve any outstanding issues with a view to allowing then to move forwards in their lives.
Regardless of the way that you decide to approach the emotional side of the relationship, it is invariably the case that there will be a number of important issues to discuss from a practical and legal perspective, particularly in relation to finances and/or children, as well as in connection to the way to formalise the end of a marriage, and mediation can in the majority of situations offer the most efficient and cost-effective way to discuss these issues together, with the assistance of an experienced mediator in a safe environment, and to seek long-lasting solutions that can be turned into legally binding agreements after the mediation process if required.